The smarter the woman gets, the more difficult for her to find a man!

” A Popular BUZZ word bandied about in live circle these days is “AVAILABLE”
the question is often asked ” Are you available ?“

Perhaps we have had the experience of finding ourselves attracted toward some one of the opposite sex… some one special… some one who available some one who will accept us the way as we are.

in recently months a number of my personal guy friend, was been kechap to me by phone or just trade short massage as trying to getting to know with me

Well I’m single …Available (damn Julia…SELF PROMOTION , well nothing wrong sometimes we need that… Well Let’s face it! we live in a society where the powerful, the beautiful and the bright usually get the recognition, the accolades and the promotions it’s pride – driven world of self that takes on at least of expression SELF PROMOTION - read my other blog “Pimp your self before they pimp you”)

Most the first time a man meet with me, mostly they talk to me about :

~ Are you seeing any one? NO

~ What do you for your life ? Artist painter and writer

~ How many kids you got? some, well I was to busy

~ Did you think, still want another kid?Well kids is gift as blessing from God, ask my self as human being as woman with my age closer to 40 and as the number my kid I had already UGH enough to make one club camp school so I’m happy and stick with I have now.

~How long you been divorce ? Quiet long, but don’t worry I’m not dry yet, I’m still can make bubble and sound OUPS!to much sorry

~ What kind a criteria guy do you like? well to many to tell, but my personalty not to picky person even I’ have side as greedy too , normally I’m dealing with what I see and I got and to the one who is available in front my nose, until it’s not work well, then I will make move.
~Why you still single….?

Bla…Bla…Bla….

~ Is dating harder for you?

I hearer, The smarter the woman get’s the more difficult for her to find a man!”

OH! Crap!!!! give me break, please…Don’t give me a such bulshit with that’s kind of pitty mind motto

PHEW!
what this wannabe “Discipler” or motoo failed to realize is generic to the art of discipling is the discipline of listening. The smarter the woman gets, the more difficult for her to find a man!

HERE THE BOTTOM LINE FOR KICKER THE ANSWER :
how else will we tap into the wellspring of a person’s soul to know “WHAT IS GOING ON IN THEIR LIFE?”

implied in this line of thinking of his joking the pitty motto some where out there is higher calling like there is;

“SMARTER ” and then there is the
“UNLUCKY person as being smart person”
and some how I can never quite get the two together….

Now , remain me as was my conversation chat with a man as best friend of mine from NJ, he was told me other day:

” My daughter is very smart. She got accepted to Cornell, I went to Cornell”

from that conversation chat, I can tell clearly how proud of him as father who had a daughter who smart… who does not?

But what happen when she is grown up…. are you gonna tell your daughter ………………………..

I don’t know your circumstances but I do know that God love us to much to allow us to take credit for Trying and Learning, that we may experience becomes smart….this is why we have brain.

Do You?

Smart is a person
Who learning
Who like to try , from those subject people becomes a person
Who has experience

My mother and other mother in this world , they smart cause every morning she creative with breakfast to serve her family.

and your wife they smart too…, they taking care the kids, family, house and even some other woman at same time do another job as her carrer beside being a mother…
Intelligence is not about how much you know. It is acknowledging what you do not know. It is about taking various bits of information and then using that information to form your own opinions, thoughts, and actions.

So…

The smarter the woman gets, the more difficult for her to find the right man
Sometimes but not all the time.. maybe because the guys gets intimidated to a by the woman’s strong personality.. …

” Naaaah…. she is to smart ! ( ugh sorry,excuse me so you excepting the dumb woman ?)

see you don’t give a change to your self and to the a woman
Ok she is smart…but what’s wrong with that?
what the reason to shake your dry bone knees and the freak hit though up your brain, then make you claim to fame as you are not deserve with smart woman or the opposite?

if the answer your doubt because ; You cant handle them?

I m sorry….

I suggest , for anticipating brain surgery, I suspect you would want to be sure the surgeon got an “A” “brain operation 101″ that’s silly right…

Smart woman also human being,
Sure beside they have side strong personality but they also have weak side too
Smart woman also have racks and ass OUPS, … sorry this nothing to do with being smart oke…but oh yeah now you like if I make comments this
Smart woman also can be dumb sometimes.(happen to me sometimes, as I m being silly, I can be dumb)

I don’t judge my intelligence by what I think I judge it by what other people think. Quite frankly, I have no idea how I rate compared to others and WHO CARE!!! but I do know, I’m smart

Now for all woman….

Is dating harder for smarter woman, has being smart woman hurt your dating life?

I think it’s … human nature to want to figure out why you are not successful at something that others appear to be successful at

You look for answers as to why you are not in a serious relationship when the rest of the world looks like they’re happily ever after.

So we tell ourselves something like, “It must be because you just happy with you are right now and your life…and when is come the right time… it will come!”

and I don’t think being “brainy” has to eclipse one’s personality…if you are not a snob about it. Brains can bring wit and compassion to a relationship…just think about it!

Nb:
On The Voice of Kartini ( 21 April )

Hidup Wanita Sedunia dan HIDUP PEREMPUAN INDONESIA

“Dengan belajar , menekunin dan mencoba kita tidak akan terpuruk di ke gelapan!”

(weleh weleh teriak nya kaya proklamasi kemerdekaan ajah, ampe male neh…. )

~ Doing something Great for your self ~

Last night after I post my pics on one of the site online some stranger guy was pop out on my IM chat box and said :

“Great work hun!” !”

I said thank you ! even though I was still not very sure, what was he give the compliment on my pics or on my oldest write?

” You have multi talent”

hmmmmm….my nose start bigger with a little cracked smile ” Damn now I really feel my head bigger ha!“

Everyone likes to get a compliment when they do good work.
well should I be proud? not trying being stuck up but yes I proud with I do

I said thank you again…

” I can’t do so much like your talented , even though I’m talented it wont look as good as great your work!”

Most of us would like to do something great for our self something noble or great

~ Like Thomas alva edison or

~ a master peace Leonardo da Vinci

~ Famous Actors/artist or

~ Like Billy Graham

perhaps have our name in lights or smile a lot’s as heared great compliment as people doing thumb up for us as we doing great work

we err our thinking however by equating greatness with bigness or notoriety :

~ preaching to 100.000 people in a stadium or

~ Winning the nobel peace prize

Great work ! God remind us has NOTHING to do with bigness or notoriety rather “the great work (is) that you believe your self, with what you do!

the great work your self is to believe your self (that you can do )
simple faith that you can be trusted……. whatever the circumstance

~ into your talent ? believe that you can do, and trusted your self that you can do the best.

~ squeesezed in a rough business situation? are you trusting your self good for you wisdom?

want to do a great work?

then just believe your self , trust your self and appreciate everything what you do even just about a little thing or small thing you done.

The great work of your self is to believe your self.

The Power Of Words!

“Jablay”
( in other words something not nice to saying for woman)
I hear this word on my ears yesterday night as one of girl on cafe was calling me as Jablay behind my back.

“Does she think I’m a Jablay?”

And with that I was entered a night determined to do something about her judge as talk about The Power of words

Every call you kid “Stupid?” or “Lazy”? or ever call your friend or some one else “Dog, Monkey or Big Guy ?”

or ever call your GF “Stupid Bitch?” as she was in bad mood or was doing not right?
or ever call you BF ” ASSHOLE?” hhehehehhe …… ( why suddenly I get addict with word asshole on every my blog never mind !)

or ever call people with even with more worse words? or scold them with “Can’t you ever do anything right?”
GUESS WHAT?
your words becomes self – fulfilling prophecies.

When I was tennager one of my friend said to me ” I don’t trust you” and from that day on I determined to give her reason not to trust me and I becomes a juvenile delinquent Again! The Power of words!

See I’m not prefect either
even sometimes I’m still use the power of words as I was feel unscured or feel in bad mood
“Can you do something for your life reather just bothering some one life?” hehhehheh
I’m sorry and I hope they forgive me.

Instead of calling the kid “Stupid”
why don’t you grab him (or her) by the shoulders and say
“wow, you are something!
Am I ever proud of you! what a privelege it is for me to be your parents!”
then said I love you or mama/papa sayang kamu!

Then the instead of calling your gf/bf “Stupid bitch” or “asshole “
“why don’t you grab her ass as like you feel ever really loved a woman
“wow you are something!”
Hmmmm…. baby/honey…. am I ever told you !
You have a great……..great……….A

HOLD ON…. HOLD ON …now she turn around (((((((((((SLAP!!!!!))))))))))))))))

OUPS! thats not work! hehhehe wrong massage on the wrong time (blame the PMS then )
but for some other woman it will work, don’t worry keep try LMOA

so let’s start over again
Then the instead of calling your gf/bf Stupid bitch or asshole
“why don’t you grab her by holding her and give her nice hug as like you feel really loved a woman
“wow you are something!”
hmmmmmm…..
“Am I ever told you, That I love you so much!
what a lucky it is for me to be your gf/bf

And the instead of calling people as bad words as being harshness
why don’t just saying as friendly words even that just simple words as simple hello…
“hi Mrs Ismet”
“hi Mr Chris”
‘Hi Dude or babe….”

Believe me being friendly will make your inner beauty come up cause when you say something nice to people as try make friendship “Hello” ( silaturahmi)
your face show up the happiness as your lips crack up as smile as saying “hello or hi or hai”
then your inner beauty come up that also helping keeping you young! but you have to say with really mean from your heart not saying because you want to impress some else (or basa basi)

and also good cause the words as saying hello as friendly to people some one you know this is also remain them that we care with them and we love them
cause they are there Right!

back to the Power of Words in stating :
“The tongue has the power of life and death”

So do not let unwhole some talk come out of your mouth but only what is help full for building other up according to their needs!

And when the last time you used the power of words to build up your spouse
with a kind word or a note of encouragament or an employee? or a coleague? or one of your kids!

I’M Become A Blogger As Pics with Thousand Words!

I'M Become A Blogger As Pics with Thousand Words!

Every one needs a place for self expression
some how, some where, some thing… people have they own way to do that.
ever you think about writing?
becomes a blogger or blogger your Personal ?
Interactive online diaries, online journals, personal blogs or group
blogs are integrated into the daily lives of a thousand around the world.

A Blog is like a journal on a specific topic. This is sometimes personal or not personal and …start saying :

“I’m become a blogger”

Silence your inner critic, it’s your journal about life. it is written
with your words and if you took the time to write them down they are
valuable, NO MATTER WHAT! don’t judge what you put in your blog just put
it there !

And you can break all the rule ( grammar and spelling , slank or follow
them if you prefer, it’s your choice! Either way there is no such thing
as right or wrong in blog writing. you can even use symbols, code or even
the sign words that only you know the meaning of…
( let’s say you are in mood with naughty joke, is not necessary to
mentions straight the “thing” but you can use your own sign word, even no
much people will know, but I’m sure the will follow and understand what
is mean after they read all your story your blog)

I don’t have quote or motto, but this my words and my guide as I’m
starting to write :
The clever writer is, when we can drag the readers into our write or
story, drag they mind to sense, to feel it and even to imagine our
written, it’s like a dream, you cant touch but you can feel it, so also
on your story/written , they read, they can feel it and imagine what’s
all about.

Go with the flow to express your self ( I know not much people easy to
express them self ) sometimes the emotions on our self will helping to
write too, like when people upset and anger for something, when you feel
hard to throw you anger, why don’t you try to write…even that just about
single word as a yelling…(((((((KISS MY ASS!!! ))))))) well nothing
wrong! (but later no body gonna read ha ha ha alright so just skip
this part, Ugh sorry just joke but hmmmm but in other words it’s feel good I don’t mind on that part on real thing LMOA, any way but it’s fine
fine too No problem LOL)
or even better when you feel excite ,happy or when feel in love with
some one friend even with family.

take time to tune in how you feel, do you feel like writing a lot or
simple feel like writing one word? or write and make your blog as like
pics with thousand words…

The happiness
The laugh
The wondering
The sadly
The joke
The silly thing
even the naughty thing… he he he why not!!!

when you go with the flow your blog writing comes easily and feels good.

Pick a special spot yo write, Choose the exciting Tittle your blog to
make your blog attractive.
Choose a place where you feel safe, happy and secure Go some where you feel inspired to lose your self in your journal writing.

Go wild with embellishments or keep it simple
Use stickers colored pens or fonts magazine pictures drawings or photos
to jazz up your blog. being creative with your blog will make your
writing experience more colorful.exciting and fun. Not in the mood for
fun? just want to write? No Problem! the blog is about YOU!or The blog is
about the world!

Discover your writing style all the journal writing tips in the world can only you guide you in the end you must choose your style based on what works best for you ask your self what you want ? what in your mind ? and thats what you should do.
Poetry/poem, art pic, drawing stickers, scrapbook style, doodles or even
themed it is your decision to make

Keep it fun and fulfilling,If it’s not fun and fulfilling chances are you will quit writing, so keep it fun by giving your self permission to try new ways of blog writing and keep it fulfilling by focusing on a wide range of topics or even give some fun as joke or even being silly on your
words or pics as joke .
( not just sad or bad ones but happy and exhilarating ones as well )

Write your blog, let the world sort it out. … don’t care if how many people are reading your posts as long as you are happy and …writing !

Is your primary desire in life to be satisfied or to be happy ?

Is your primary desire in life to be satisfied or to be happy ?

God has promised to supply ALL our needs, That’s what worries me ,because his idea of “NEEDS” may not square with my idea of “WANTS”

So, I took a moment my morning, Get cancer with burnt my cigarrete on my fingers ( shit that bad joke ) and thanks God for smell a cup of my coffee and my thought flying around in my quiet room.

I wonder if our need for life has something to do with our desire to have more then one days or one whole life provision at a time?

he said allowed them to pick up only one day’s provosion at a time , if they attempted more they wanna spoil.

most people problem is that their not only want “THING” and covering and of choice but also a full menu picky of choice as to what kind of want or need and covering…

so let’s make list of your idea of want or desire and what your list?

My satisfied:

~ I want a sexy man and handsome guy with big arms hehheh

~ I want to keep my apartement ( always)

~ I want my daughter with me

~ I want my job and get high sallery

~ Bla….

~ Bla…

~ and bla…

My Happiness:

~ I want a man who I love and a man who love me

~ I just want live and have a place

~ I want see good life for my daughter

~ Well I just want have a job and do something for life

~ Bla…

~ Bla…

~ and bla…

Obviously God was dealing with their greed and teaching them to trust him one day at a time, as stop to much complaning about life

well it’s hard ya…
special when I’m wake up morning, I m out off my coffee or when need it and really need it… something,something so bad….. ugh! hehheh Damn I’m out off CDM ha ha ha that even more worse ( Ok this just for my secret

I do this!

I did it my away

i did myaway

“In The kind warmth the metal learns to glow and pure from dross the silver runs below”

illustrations-art-pics "Benggal Metal Brain"

When God is doing the deepest of work within us we can feel the
warmth and love of the GREAT ARTISAN…. as time goes by learn
to yield and allow Him to work through us express HIMSELF.

When I start learning with photo shop ( a high – end graphics program )
I began working with it and could not see how benefit me.
Photo shop offers the capability of building a piece of art in layers begining with an empty canvas, sure is not same as doing paint painting but for me it’s some how is not much difference as I m doing paint on canvas.

Not long after I began to work in photo shop
I dreamed I was viewing a picture in program.

To the side I could see the layer as empty canvas
To the side I could see the crusor as the brush
To the side I could see My Fantasy Illustration art

I saw the tools as media and begin to strip the layers one by one and throw them in the trash until there was an empty canvas, Then began a new picture one layer at a time, So here My other art Illustration art pic

“In The kind warmth the metal learns to glow and pure from dross the silver runs below”

bengal-metals-brain

I know this is a little bit strange , but this is my imaginative, my progress in this pic, I use more then 20 difference pic/object and I do about 336 layer or cropping copy of object pic, well this is not the biggest number, I had done before to made one art illustration pic with +600 or 700 layer before

so enjoy it my illustration art pic

How Big is Your Gun ?

how big is your gun?

I cant possibly look as old in real life as I do in the photos I see, lack of sleep or not , whether I am depressed or not ,
when I look in the mirror, the voice in my head says proudly ” well… not to bad for my age !” ( hmmm…. big head ya LOL )
My closer 40 something seem to be not show up, and some people told me recently.
” hey baby you will never be as old as you look!” hmmmm alright, suddenly I feel enjoying get liking LOL)

Ok forget the beauty, macho thing, six pack and how good look my look as closer to 40,
let’s cut through all the smoke and mirrors and talk about the real of sex, to be honest, it’s a place of size – both to the relationship and body.

If you ask a woman ” Does size matter?” you to tend to get generic answer, some A VERY LOUD SAY YES!!! ( Ok come down girl LOL alright we heared that ) and while other say No, and the rest just don’t care.

so….. which is it?

A few days ago I met my old friends school as at my family party on my parents house,
so during my afternoon party family and with her situation in mind,she share her worry said the wheel were coming off her personal and on her married life, as she struggles to juggle all the colors in the air her married life.
she said seemed to confused of what she want it? and what she need? and what make her happy…so her upset rush to keep up with the rest of the pack drama the color of her bed.( am I make confused with all those words? I m sure LOL but thats the point ha ha ha nah Joke )
now I come accros to size matter or not matter encounter chat chit with 2 of my friend a married woman.
“where we did we go wrong?”
isn’t that the question you are asking your self if you have offspring who are giving you fits!

“he got huge……. he got…., he got …” alright enough enough LOL later make me dizzy try to looking LMOA

then while my to pear ears be loyal listening my friend talk and other side my head was fly back to a years ago!
I remember reviewing the story from other some womans and 2 other my best friend about “big is not always the right side or fit with woman!So maybe a better say is: sure can fit but doesn’t mean always make happy.

Let’s start over again… as woman thought and they joke sometimes…

The first time most woman meet with a man, most they talk about how he handel his money and about his sex!
there is nasty little rummor circulating joke that some woman say :

Big feet big his gun
Big his thumb big his gun
Big his nose big his gun
some even say big arms big his gun…….. oh mama miaaaaaaaaa….. baby hold on there! lol
DAMN!!! So do woman have to watch all that attitudde on part body of man?

Are we?

hey, let’s slap back the question on me! How’s me? ha ha ha…. I could be honest, ugh! sometimes just for my human naughty curios LOL )

The question about size matter or not has been around…. well, since size… ( ah I m to young to mention that word lol but I can screaming loader to say that )! But The Broth as are wondering why you have doubts when the answers have already been given. If some women say it matters to them, then it probably does. Others who say it doesn’t matter, will likely have no reason to be dishonest.
But
The questions allong back to the man
as they most man thinking do woman need big gun?

Keep in mind that all women are different. its the truth some people care about size and some dont but its the feeling thet you get from the person that ultimatly matters,as long as youre being honest with things all is well

Women are typically more concerned about how good you make them feel — no matter your size.

( ah! is that make you better? ………… )

Illustration Art Pic

illustrations art pic

Admit, Oh yeah! every body knows that illustration is nothing, Nothing
compared to graphic design, Nothing compared to photography.
but still, the illustration art pic’s also beautiful and for me it’s
very creative.

Since my questionable skill as an artist and I thought
many of the core indicators of creative thinking and be imaginative and
behaviour can be seen individuals who enjoy the process of learning
through experimentation and exploration.

I will be taking a break form my painting, However I will not be
neglecting my artistic outlets. Instead I will be learning graphic
design and computer illustration, to better round out my capabilities

I normally do my graphic design with Corel draw. …and most all the
time my illustration pic I use a lot’s with Adobe Photoshop,
Macromedia Dreamweaver, Macromedia Flash,Corel Draw, Macromedia
Fireworks, Adobe Illustrator, Adobe InDesign and other Graphic Tools.

illustrations-art-pic

So although i will not be doing as much painting i will continue to
expand my artistic talents into these new areas. If you have any
suggestions or requests please let me know. since this is new territory
to me im not sure yet what i am good at and what I am great at

illustrations-art-pic