The smarter the woman gets, the more difficult for her to find a man!

” A Popular BUZZ word bandied about in live circle these days is “AVAILABLE”
the question is often asked ” Are you available ?“

Perhaps we have had the experience of finding ourselves attracted toward some one of the opposite sex… some one special… some one who available some one who will accept us the way as we are.

in recently months a number of my personal guy friend, was been kechap to me by phone or just trade short massage as trying to getting to know with me

Well I’m single …Available (damn Julia…SELF PROMOTION , well nothing wrong sometimes we need that… Well Let’s face it! we live in a society where the powerful, the beautiful and the bright usually get the recognition, the accolades and the promotions it’s pride – driven world of self that takes on at least of expression SELF PROMOTION - read my other blog “Pimp your self before they pimp you”)

Most the first time a man meet with me, mostly they talk to me about :

~ Are you seeing any one? NO

~ What do you for your life ? Artist painter and writer

~ How many kids you got? some, well I was to busy

~ Did you think, still want another kid?Well kids is gift as blessing from God, ask my self as human being as woman with my age closer to 40 and as the number my kid I had already UGH enough to make one club camp school so I’m happy and stick with I have now.

~How long you been divorce ? Quiet long, but don’t worry I’m not dry yet, I’m still can make bubble and sound OUPS!to much sorry

~ What kind a criteria guy do you like? well to many to tell, but my personalty not to picky person even I’ have side as greedy too , normally I’m dealing with what I see and I got and to the one who is available in front my nose, until it’s not work well, then I will make move.
~Why you still single….?

Bla…Bla…Bla….

~ Is dating harder for you?

I hearer, The smarter the woman get’s the more difficult for her to find a man!”

OH! Crap!!!! give me break, please…Don’t give me a such bulshit with that’s kind of pitty mind motto

PHEW!
what this wannabe “Discipler” or motoo failed to realize is generic to the art of discipling is the discipline of listening. The smarter the woman gets, the more difficult for her to find a man!

HERE THE BOTTOM LINE FOR KICKER THE ANSWER :
how else will we tap into the wellspring of a person’s soul to know “WHAT IS GOING ON IN THEIR LIFE?”

implied in this line of thinking of his joking the pitty motto some where out there is higher calling like there is;

“SMARTER ” and then there is the
“UNLUCKY person as being smart person”
and some how I can never quite get the two together….

Now , remain me as was my conversation chat with a man as best friend of mine from NJ, he was told me other day:

” My daughter is very smart. She got accepted to Cornell, I went to Cornell”

from that conversation chat, I can tell clearly how proud of him as father who had a daughter who smart… who does not?

But what happen when she is grown up…. are you gonna tell your daughter ………………………..

I don’t know your circumstances but I do know that God love us to much to allow us to take credit for Trying and Learning, that we may experience becomes smart….this is why we have brain.

Do You?

Smart is a person
Who learning
Who like to try , from those subject people becomes a person
Who has experience

My mother and other mother in this world , they smart cause every morning she creative with breakfast to serve her family.

and your wife they smart too…, they taking care the kids, family, house and even some other woman at same time do another job as her carrer beside being a mother…
Intelligence is not about how much you know. It is acknowledging what you do not know. It is about taking various bits of information and then using that information to form your own opinions, thoughts, and actions.

So…

The smarter the woman gets, the more difficult for her to find the right man
Sometimes but not all the time.. maybe because the guys gets intimidated to a by the woman’s strong personality.. …

” Naaaah…. she is to smart ! ( ugh sorry,excuse me so you excepting the dumb woman ?)

see you don’t give a change to your self and to the a woman
Ok she is smart…but what’s wrong with that?
what the reason to shake your dry bone knees and the freak hit though up your brain, then make you claim to fame as you are not deserve with smart woman or the opposite?

if the answer your doubt because ; You cant handle them?

I m sorry….

I suggest , for anticipating brain surgery, I suspect you would want to be sure the surgeon got an “A” “brain operation 101″ that’s silly right…

Smart woman also human being,
Sure beside they have side strong personality but they also have weak side too
Smart woman also have racks and ass OUPS, … sorry this nothing to do with being smart oke…but oh yeah now you like if I make comments this
Smart woman also can be dumb sometimes.(happen to me sometimes, as I m being silly, I can be dumb)

I don’t judge my intelligence by what I think I judge it by what other people think. Quite frankly, I have no idea how I rate compared to others and WHO CARE!!! but I do know, I’m smart

Now for all woman….

Is dating harder for smarter woman, has being smart woman hurt your dating life?

I think it’s … human nature to want to figure out why you are not successful at something that others appear to be successful at

You look for answers as to why you are not in a serious relationship when the rest of the world looks like they’re happily ever after.

So we tell ourselves something like, “It must be because you just happy with you are right now and your life…and when is come the right time… it will come!”

and I don’t think being “brainy” has to eclipse one’s personality…if you are not a snob about it. Brains can bring wit and compassion to a relationship…just think about it!

Nb:
On The Voice of Kartini ( 21 April )

Hidup Wanita Sedunia dan HIDUP PEREMPUAN INDONESIA

“Dengan belajar , menekunin dan mencoba kita tidak akan terpuruk di ke gelapan!”

(weleh weleh teriak nya kaya proklamasi kemerdekaan ajah, ampe male neh…. )

~ I’M Gonna Be Like You ~

While I was growing up, my father traveling a lot’s on his duty in marines
he left my mom often sometimes was take quiet long enough for being month and month, but he never feel tired to send us a card while he was traveling

my father only showed up once or twice at any of my school or extra curricular activities I was about in the first year junior school, playing on Volly ball team

there was my father in the stand!
still wear his uniform after take couple month traveling disappear with his ship

“Where you been ?” I was screaming happy to see him

“I had been traveling…”

Now let’s skip my story…

One man was spoke to his friend at bar while he spent his happy hour and seeing sight give those two pear his ball eyes an happy hour with any pleasure around an happy hour ass available who walk pass by ( he he he…. that’s will another next story sorry, well get a long with my joke hehheeh oke just skip that)

“My child turned ten just other day he said!”
“Thanks for the ball Dad
“C’mon let’s play, can you teach me to throw?”
I said “Not today! I got a lot’s to do”
his son said “That’s OK”
and he walked way but his smile never dimmed
he said ” I’m gonna be like him, yeah… you know I’m gonna be like him!”

Then after couple years….

“I have long since retired, my son’s move away, I called him just other day.
I said ” I would like to see you if you don’t mind?”
He said ” I would to Dad! if I could fine the time, you see.

the new job’s a hassle and the kids have the flue, but it’s sure nice talking to you Dad, it’s been sure nice talkin’ to you.
and as I hang up the phone, it occurred to me

“he grown up just like me, my boy was just like me”
last week while I was visit my friend at some part east Jakarta, she took me to other her neighbor for talking about her rent room.

” BERENGSEK!!!! Elo monyet!!!”

a girl about 14 year old was screaming to her brother in other room
then the woman was excuse and left us for checking her kids.

“MONYET LOE! berisik ada tamu tahu!!!”

Alright in other word, she screaming back to her own kids with use same bad words as her daughter was screaming about, to control her kids.

in reflecting back, I remember of the pharse….

“The fruit never fall/drop far from the tree “

and the lyric Harry Chapin cat’s in the cradle :

A child arrived just the other day
they come to the world in the usual way
but there were planes to catch and bills to pay
they learned to walk while we was way
they learned to talk while we was show them way
and they was talking fore
we knew it and as they grow they said

” I’m gonna be like you!”

Parents judging by your current investment into the lives of your clan, are you pleased with the reality that some day they are in fact

” Gonna be like you?”