~ Making Friendship like Kids Who Love All Colors ~

Friendship and love are the two most beautiful words in any language. And I believe most of us would have experienced both in some way or the other and both that experienced we bring our heart to the friendship and love.

Ah the heart, that is where our problem to how important is upholding the truth to your self and the friendship …. honest , lie is it not?
the heart here respresents you ethical center , your intellectual center, and your CHARACTER center what you think, what is going on with your will
your perceptions of your self and to the friendship.

The condition of your heart is critical because what goes on there determines the course of your friendship even to your life.

“FRIENDSHIP FROM PURE HEART “

That is simply loving friend with no strings attached

when they stab our back

sure we sad, but we try to forgive them as giving a chance back ( I know sometimes this is not easy but…)

“If some other people were giving us a chance , Why cant we don’t?”
memperbaiki silaturahmi lebih baik dari pada memutuskan nya .

That is pure friendship from the pure heart and that is how we are to love other and our friends.

but yes, as human we are not prefect and no one, we also have limit, we don’t give back chance, back and forth a hundred time and sometimes we think to let them go, as we thought they are not ready to be friend or not happy make it friend with us.

Ever see a little girl playing with their friend?

They laugh each other, they run together, sometimes often we see they often holding hands each other when they walk or run in parks together.

They comment each other about they toys

” Look my doll have beautiful crully blonde hair…and I have beuatiful red an umbrella”
” See… I do too have beautiful a dolly with black straight hair, and I have yellow umbrella”

or they work and organize together

” How about today I will be mom and you be like a daddy!”

10 minutes they play each other
and they laugh each other
10 minutes later…
the other girl screaming ….and
the one a cried…. she run to her mom as ask plaintive

” She is bad….”

Then what the parents do?

“oh I’m sorry, but she is fine, I’m sure she doesn’t mean that, Let’s see your friend again!”

then mom drag her daughter back to her friend ask they both to handshake each other, or hug each other as forgiveness and giving back a chance each other.

” Ayo…salaman lagi, baikan lagi…..!”

and a minutes later they play again, they laugh each other again, they even forget about the pain and sad.

That is a friendship from pure heart

See from the beginning we already teaching our kid about a FRIENDSHIP FROM PURE HEART…
forgiveness..and giving some one a chance.

If kid can do that, why we can’t?
If we can teach our kid like that, why cant we teach our self ?
Yes, we are not a kid and not any more, you can say it’s difference
but we can have a heart as like a young kid, to built our friendship with young heart.

EVERYONE IS THE SAME COLOR WHEN WE TURN OFF THE LIGHTS.
Friendship is like a Rainbow with so much rich color,
making friendship like kids who love all colors

Mostly a kids they love all about color they have brave to choose a full coloring of bright color
is same as they look they own playmate or friend, they mind mostly only think.

” I want to play…”
” I’m happy to be friend…”

But when they grow up, step by step mostly
they are more choosey as they own.. more soft…gentle…smooth more calm colors as they look at someone as a friend

” I choose who I like to be my friend !”

~ FRIENDSHIP FROM A CLEAR CONSCIENCE ~
That is simply ministering to friendship out of pure motives

~ we understand what a friend/friendship wants us to do – our calling

~ We accept them as they way they are – we cant expecting them to be what we want it.

~ live in harmony as support with one other – rather than pick at each other
( when you go up I will support you, when you down and fall I will be stand with you )

~ Be sympathetic – Rather than jealousy each other

~ Love as brother/sister – rather than compete as adversaries

~ Respect – each other and their stories (the ability to hear what another is attempting to put into words with out judging) and their times.

~ Confidentiality – Not violating another secrecy
(A friend is a person whom we can trust and share our secrets, inner thoughts and consider the way to solve any problems)

~ Giving ( not wondering what they give to you…) What do you give to friend and friendship?

~ FRIENDSHIP FROM SINCAREFAITH ~

That is simply loving people without hypocrisy….

Faith and Trust should be the base and understanding is vital.

Every person has a different opinion about good friend’s behaviour. Some people prefer to have a friend who is intelligent, others choose a friend who is funny, and rest of them prefer to have a friend who is reliable. All of these three characters are important behaviour of friends, but in my opinion the reliability is the best quality of friends.
Without faith and any trust or belief in each other, the relationship between people can not last for long time.

We should make it friend and friendship as colloring rich color, Even though we come from different backgrounds, different level,
Age, color, size and appearance don’t matter to us
because we see people right through
we just wanted to say that our friend is like our sister/brother

I making a lot’s friend…
I make a friendship as colloring full color…
Some as I look them as they are my friend, but they never dream if they can be my friend.
Some as I look them as they are my friend, but they never thought they are my friend.
Some as I call friend and look them as my friend, but they are not ready to be friend.
Some as I look them as friend, even we never meet yet in real, but they are my friend.
Some as I call friend and look them as my friend, and yes they are my friend.

The question is :
Did you happy make it friend ?
Did you happy to be friend to your friend?
Did you happy to see your friend happy?

Friendship can survive without love, but still we need heart to built the friendship.

Np. The little girl on this pic, she is my friend daughter, she is good kid and she does have a Friendship from pure heart, I’m always remember, once time I catch her voice as talk with her friend, when her friends come play on out side the door of my room on noontime, then she was always saying ” No, don’t play there, let’s move other place, cause auntie Julia not wake up yet ” (heheheheh….) then other her friend ask her, “how do you know she not wake up yet ?” ” My mom say, if you don’t hear yet the music on at auntie Julia room, thats mean she still sleep!” (hehheheh ) I love this little girl , I look her as my own friend, she is beautiful and have beautiful heart.

I write this blog to remain her and her mother as they both as my friend and I miss them.

~ ARE THE STORMS OF LIFE GETTING TO YOU ?

ARE THE STORM GETTING TO YOUR LIFE

ARE THE STORMS OF LIFE GETTING TO YOU ?

Several observations
~ The storms of life descend on the righteous and unrighteous a like
~ The person who builds they house on the word of God has a solid foundations :Rock
~ The person who does not built they house on the word of God has a shaky foundations :Sand
~ The storms come from every direction

ABOVE “The rains descended “
BELOW “Theflood came “
ALL SIDES “The winds blew and burst agains’t the house

Conclusion :

~Those who go to the trouble of HEARING and APPLYING the word of God will stand up under the storm
~ Those who refuse to litsen to obey God’s word will not stand up under storm life

You and I can count on storm in life whether we survive will depend upon the foundation we lay in God’s word HEARING and APPLIYING
the choice is our.

Life’s Storms like the disciples who were caught in a vicious gale are often :

~ “WITH OUT WARNING “~
~ ” FURIOUS “~
~” OVERWHELMING – THE WAVES SWEPT OVER THE BOAT “

When we suffer, when we feel like storm getting to our life,
with out warning, furious….over whelming the waves swept over the boat, we are tempted to doubt the notion that a loving God actively controls the universe and is compassionately involved in our world.
I have spoken with people who abandoned their faith in God when some tragic personal loss happened to them, Sometimes, it feels like all hell is breaking loose in our lives.

A woman who I know ,once was make screaming “I don’t understand. I love my husband, If God loves us, why did my husband have to die so slowly and so painfully by wreck? why God only take him? It’s not fair.

When people in doubt they run to center and screaming…and not often they thought as God wasn’t fair, as when they feel pain,feel like the storm destroy their life and wondering ” WHY ME?”

One of friend once asked me, “I don’t understand, I have been a good wife for him and loyal and I am good religious woman…and why my married….Does God care? Why do we sometimes lose everything we care about? …
“Why does a loving God permit suffering?”

People suffer, One day your life is happy and sunny. You have health and prosperity. Then BOOM! You are hit hard. Everything goes wrong. Sometimes a thunderbolt shoots from a clear sky and some terrible trouble befalls us and we just can’t intellectually apprehend how God has allowed it to happen.

surrounded as we feel our life furious and unexpected storms ,Sometimes make us think as ask our self, did God lead us into the boat? do I have not have the right to a storm free journey?

Where God is? thats God sleeping? is God indifferent? or God stretching my faith?

How we answer these questions will depend upon the object of our focus :

The storm which quaranteed nail biting , ulcers, panic or
God who will lead us to inner peace

“You will keep in perfect peace God whose mind is steadfast because be trusts in you!”

why does God allow furious overwhelming storms, with out warning?

I don’t know….

but I do know, God who will lead us to inner peace, be still and know that God is there!”

~ Face it ~

Since we still breathing we always find the problem and testing, kemana pun kita pergi dimana pun kita mencoba untuk bersembunyi dan berapa pun jumlah gigolo atau bodyguard yang kita punya, kita akan tetap berhadapan dengan masalah dan ujian.

Besar dan kecil nya masalah itu tergantung dari diri kita sendiri, dari dimana kita menempat kan diri dan memilih bagaimana kehidupan kita, dan dari AKIBAT dan SEBAB dari sesuatu yang kita lakukan dan perbuat!

Kalau kita memilih hidup dengan hanya di lingkungan small box dan masalah itu akan kemungkinan datang dari yang di sekitar box itu saja, dengan orang – orang dan dengan sesuatu bentuk atau benda yang ada di sekitar box itu saja!

As my self, I do not want life just in small box, I want see more…I want see sun in difference place, I want hunting a moon on difference place to see more and other poeple who far even maybe they are stranger for me.

I’m not say , I’m a person who daring risk or problem and I do not say my gut is bigger twice then size my body,but yes I’m a fighter, fighter for my life! again as human being I have a fear too and I have a weak side too,

I can feel hurt, when people hurting me
I can screaming… when the storm getting to my life too…”WHY ME!!!”
I can fall down too, if I walk in wrong way.

But we are not always , be hurt,fear, screaming or fall down…

There is always tomorrow when you get hurt,fall, a new day and a new sun bright coming after you face it the problem.
Our Problems Are Our Challenges in life so if you don’t face your problems no matter how big or small it is you must still face it (maka nya tuhan memberikan kita AKAL dan Pikiran dengan itu kita memulai nya…menggunakan untuk menyelesai kan setiap masalah dengan cara berpikir lebih dulu dan mengunakan akal bagaimana menyelesai kan nya)

If you don’t YOU WILL NEVER LEARN how to LIVE because life is full of problems From The day you were born And The Day Before you die……

~ ACCEPTING ~

Yes!,life has been an unpredictable experience. we have felt like we was climbing a mountain, and continually falling down a longer distance than we managed to climb.
there is a lot’s storm getting our life, you and me even cant acount how many…and how deep it was is, sometimes even was find often ourself as crying out as we battle as storm getting to our life’s

I am not a person who sweetly accepts my trials, by nature. Oh, not at all. Any time major life changes are flung at me, I have an instinct to duck. Life has held such radical and searingly painful changes, that I don’t want to try to catch a new one out of the blue. I fear change. So normally I withdraw, miss, and it falls at my feet, or hits me in the head.

But each toss is a test. Each toss is a challenge. Sometimes it just hits me like a ball that I cannot see in a school game. Sometimes it keeps coming back at me until I do catch it, and am forced to deal with it.

Sometimes also it’s unfair, when people have a problem as the storm getting their life, some people they don’t helping to support their mental but just judging. ( Udah jatuh ketimpa tangga lagi )

“That his/her KARMA !”
( Tuh Karma…)

Well….WHO THE HELL YOU ARE?
and WHAT GOD NAME ARE YOU? HA!

I’m not say I do not believe with Karma, but we cant just judge every problem as our karma.
God will bring you to judgment including every hidden thing whether it’s good or evil.for we will all stand before God judgment seat…

If we had no tests in life, how would we know we were achieving what we were supposed to be? How can we know anyway? It must be in the way we face and endure them. … The greatest joy of all we can imagine, will be God’s pleasure in us.

There is a reason behind any testing, whether small, or enormous. Many times we are not given this reason, nor should we think we should be. God is control of the situation, God knows the whole picture. We do not. Even if we don’t know the reason for testing until we gone, we can be certain that there is one. We can know absolutely, that God works all trial for good.

I have even thought that I might not have this trust, if I had never known a trial. Where would I have learned it, if not through going to my Saviour in brokenness?

If you are struggling with a difficult situation are the storm getting your life :

~ Realize you are not alone, other people have similiar experinces, most important remember that God with you.

~ Find a few trusted friend to share your concerns pain.

~ If you know , see and hear other people judge you ( Karma ) asking God to forgiveness them.

~ Refuse to quilty or ashamed or unworthy as you thought it’s karma. I don’t say I do not believe with karma.but
Don’t let your karma lay quilty upon you when know you served God with intergrity.

~ Keep going and Faith , wait and pray.

~ Patience and Hope.

Np : I know is not easy, even me sometimes I just run to the center and screaming “WHY ME!”
but we can try to learn to listen to Accept, we becomes obedient (which in LATIN means “ACCEPTING”)
So today, we will choose to delight in God unconditional love and once again take baby steps in learning how to let go, relax and allow your spirit free access to the depths of our being.

to instantly lift our heart up to God in surrender , May each step, each awareness, each encounter and each challange , each testing , each problem , be queitly giving over to God

Dengan berserah diri ….
Aku kembalikan semua nya kepada mu
Engkau yang memberikan….
Engkau pula yang akan mengambil nya kembali

~On Caring enough to comfront ~

A years ago, my self and friend spent the evening in the home of couple who were faith as made commited relationship with guy as “ FORK LOVE”

fork love

( in other words , fill each other and tolerate each other with out commited married and they don’t even live together )

while backing the car out of their drive way ,I commented to her that I felt there was something a miss in that kind of relationship.

” They fine …. Don’t worry, I ‘m stick with that kind of LTR too

I’m quiet for moment…

then I second guessed my self with
“well, Yes! I could be wrong….it’s just an impression , beside we shouldn’t meddle in other people’s lives” soon we were home and the thought dismissed

1 years later the couple was broke up , the culmination of year of deep scated but well the track fork love problem ,The girl and her thought were left devasteted and desolate as singging with her self pitty

“ F#*$ …they will rip your heart from your ass!!” but I’m thinking something other rip

Yupiiee ass ha!

then after they bored , they just stand with their flag as saying
” I just want be friend with you!”

And recently, I was on phone with a friend who spoke about her crumbled fork love after 6 month process!
rarerly are harsh words uttered between them, the couple functions clock – like efficiency but slowly almost imperceptibly, they both are moving emotionally into ” MEAL” bored orbits

the gentle touch, the tender word, the fill each other and the tolerante…..
the lingering together over coffee Gone!
even the style rip from the ass Gone! damn that’s to much ok that’s not include the story , excuse me….

over the couple months I remember thinking ” she is doing all the right stuff but something is wrong at the core “

“Well fill each other and we tolerate each other “
“tolerate and fill each other ? Tell me, has your relationship slipped to the tole ration commited level?
gone stale like cold potatoes?
perhaps what you thought you were getting in a mate? and what you end up with are not the same?
perchance that’s the diffirence in relationship between infatuation as fork love and true love

“The correct fork to use with salad is……
The correct fork to use with the steak is….
even both same reason use for eating but they have difference use it…”

Now forget the story…and forget about being rip on ass ( am I say that?)

The question I must ask my self when faced with friends, who may be in trouble is

” Do I care enough to confront them ?”

or am I more worried about their rejection of me?
about being wrong ? or about getting to involved?
or they gonna say ” who the hell are you , this is my life!”

The opposited of love may not be hate but indifference therefore, when I choose to not comfront a brother who MAY be in trouble it’s possible thats simply do not care…..
at least enough to confront?

that kind of INDIFFERENCE is not evidence of calvary love

People Can Change !

People can change, yes cause we are
People not only can change but People sometimes must be change …

YES! it’s true people can change

Before I’ m always forget or ignore it about the principle, the basic principle of being grown and life as a human being : Change

One popular saying that’s always struck me as particularly pity and harmful is, “People don’t change.”

I m not perfect either sometimes very often too I realize I keeping rained personality traits as being ego my self, as I use the words

“No! I cant help, I can’t change my self! “

Saying people can’t change is the same as saying people can’t learn.
When you learn something new that knowledge fundamentally changes you.
Each piece of information adds to your personal database creating
additional resources to draw on when interacting with the outside
world. We face the same temptations to engage in negative behavior,
but we also build a body of experience that tells us the reward isn’t
worth the penalty.

In a sense we are always changing and always staying the same. When I compare my self of today with my self from a few years ago or when I was kid , I observe that I’m the same but more.I’m the same in how I think and process information but experience has changed the way I interpret everything. Every day adds a new layer of character, I learning and learning,guess that what we should do and try. Learning and change!

Is weird right, I can express my self easy for anything, drawing, writing, poem and also I can easy express my self as my talk to much sometimes with friends as chat chit, but hard for me when I was kid to express the feeling as to say :

“I love you or I love you too..with words, even I do know love them. see I m not perfect!

I thought I will never change and I can’t change….

Now! everything has change
I’m very easy to express my self as express my feeling with words and
face it, if I love some one or care to people even they are not my
family, I wont haste to let them know, with words but really mean it, as I care with them…

” Aku Cinta Kamu”
“I Love You”

” Aku Sayang kamu “

” I Care about You” or

“WOW he got nice ass……… ”

OUPS sorry that’s difference express ” well cant help my bad habbit ! alright just forget it about that words.

Any way!

People do change. We make every decision for the first time with no obligation to the past. If we control anything, we control our own thoughts and behavior. If can improve anything, it should be
ourselves.

How Big is Your Gun ?

how big is your gun?

I cant possibly look as old in real life as I do in the photos I see, lack of sleep or not , whether I am depressed or not ,
when I look in the mirror, the voice in my head says proudly ” well… not to bad for my age !” ( hmmm…. big head ya LOL )
My closer 40 something seem to be not show up, and some people told me recently.
” hey baby you will never be as old as you look!” hmmmm alright, suddenly I feel enjoying get liking LOL)

Ok forget the beauty, macho thing, six pack and how good look my look as closer to 40,
let’s cut through all the smoke and mirrors and talk about the real of sex, to be honest, it’s a place of size – both to the relationship and body.

If you ask a woman ” Does size matter?” you to tend to get generic answer, some A VERY LOUD SAY YES!!! ( Ok come down girl LOL alright we heared that ) and while other say No, and the rest just don’t care.

so….. which is it?

A few days ago I met my old friends school as at my family party on my parents house,
so during my afternoon party family and with her situation in mind,she share her worry said the wheel were coming off her personal and on her married life, as she struggles to juggle all the colors in the air her married life.
she said seemed to confused of what she want it? and what she need? and what make her happy…so her upset rush to keep up with the rest of the pack drama the color of her bed.( am I make confused with all those words? I m sure LOL but thats the point ha ha ha nah Joke )
now I come accros to size matter or not matter encounter chat chit with 2 of my friend a married woman.
“where we did we go wrong?”
isn’t that the question you are asking your self if you have offspring who are giving you fits!

“he got huge……. he got…., he got …” alright enough enough LOL later make me dizzy try to looking LMOA

then while my to pear ears be loyal listening my friend talk and other side my head was fly back to a years ago!
I remember reviewing the story from other some womans and 2 other my best friend about “big is not always the right side or fit with woman!So maybe a better say is: sure can fit but doesn’t mean always make happy.

Let’s start over again… as woman thought and they joke sometimes…

The first time most woman meet with a man, most they talk about how he handel his money and about his sex!
there is nasty little rummor circulating joke that some woman say :

Big feet big his gun
Big his thumb big his gun
Big his nose big his gun
some even say big arms big his gun…….. oh mama miaaaaaaaaa….. baby hold on there! lol
DAMN!!! So do woman have to watch all that attitudde on part body of man?

Are we?

hey, let’s slap back the question on me! How’s me? ha ha ha…. I could be honest, ugh! sometimes just for my human naughty curios LOL )

The question about size matter or not has been around…. well, since size… ( ah I m to young to mention that word lol but I can screaming loader to say that )! But The Broth as are wondering why you have doubts when the answers have already been given. If some women say it matters to them, then it probably does. Others who say it doesn’t matter, will likely have no reason to be dishonest.
But
The questions allong back to the man
as they most man thinking do woman need big gun?

Keep in mind that all women are different. its the truth some people care about size and some dont but its the feeling thet you get from the person that ultimatly matters,as long as youre being honest with things all is well

Women are typically more concerned about how good you make them feel — no matter your size.

( ah! is that make you better? ………… )